Why Sophia Bush Felt Pressured Into Marrying Chad Michael Murray
UPDATE at 2:20 p.m. PT: Sophia Bush later tweeted, “When you’re taking the piss out of yourself – b/c people can’t let the past go & you really wish they would – & gossip rags try to turn it into inappropriate drama rather than self-deprication. Don’t twist people’s words, y’all. If it wasn’t clear, I was making fun of MYSELF…And if all the years that have passed haven’t made it WILDLY clear that we’re all grown ups who’ve become the best versions of ourselves, then I just don’t know what to say. And PS, if my teasing MYSELF on the radio today — for my past — hurt anyone’s feelings, I am sorry.”
The 35-year-old actress and 36-year-old actor met on the set of One Tree Hill and wed in 2005, less than a year after getting engaged. Five months after their wedding, it was revealed that they had split. In early 2006, Bush filed for an annulment, citing fraud, but her request was denied. She and Murray were granted a divorce that December. The exes lost touch after Murray exited One Tree Hill in 2009.
“Everybody’s been 22 and stupid,” Bush told Andy Cohen on his Radio Andy Sirius XM show on Wednesday.
“It was not a thing I actually really wanted to do,” the actress said, talking about the marriage.
“I don’t understand because if you didn’t want to get married, how do you get to the point of being, like, talked into it?” Cohen asked.
“Because how do you let everybody down,” Bush said. “And how do you- what’s the fight and when you have bosses telling you that you’re the only person who gets a person to work on time and 200 people either get to see their kids at night or they don’t because our days start on time.”
“Life is always loaded,” she said. “What the public knows ever is never- it’s not the tip of the iceberg. Hilarie [Burton] and I used to laugh and we were like, ‘If we had a behind-the-scenes show, the drama would be so much f–king better than the drama that the writers write.'”
She told Cohen, “I get why you ask, but it’s like, people won’t let it go.”
Bush has rarely talked about her and Murray’s divorce in the press.
“We were two stupid kids who had no business being in a relationship in the first place,” she told Cohen on his Bravo show Watch What Happens Live in 2014. “To all the other costars who’ve worked it out, more power to you.”
“I came to appreciate that relationships often serve a specific purpose at a certain point in time, for myriad reasons,” she said. “Some are meant to heal you, some are meant to teach you how to build yourself up, and some are meant to show you how to trust your own intuition. You call in exactly whom and what you need over the course of your life, as you are learning life’s lessons. And learn them you will. Even if you try to avoid these teachings, they’re coming for you. This reality has taught me that the relationships that don’t lead to lifetime commitments are not failures. Not every love can last forever.”